Looks like a quiet holiday at home for me. Didn't work out with Kris. I wanted to get out of town, but I'm tired and now sort of glad to be staying home.

I left work Friday with three things I needed to get done this weekend. Only completed 1 1/2 of them. Feeling overwhelmed. At least if I'm home I can do a conf call Friday with Europe and get some work done.

I have a coffee date tomorrow night. Guy with very similar situation to me.....he's recently divorced, early forties. Should be interesting.

Going Backward

I've been bad since end of August. I've been working so much that I've hardly been to the gym. I went twice last week. It's just amazing to me how out of shape I can get in 8 weeks. I ran 4 miles, but couldn't run through even the first 2 miles without stopping. Heart rate above 170...which is unusual for me, and at only 6.2 mph.

I need to make this an integral part of my life...and stop having these "exercise hiatuses" of two months. I'd stay in shape and feel better.

My Date

I was sort of joking around a bit with the title of my last post. Maybe some people didn't get it....I guess you can't see my facial expressions...

I guess this date was a little different for me.....he's a really nice, smart guy. We had a good conversation. And then it ended with a hug goodbye. No sex on the first date...which seems to be the norm for guys. That's a good thing. It was sort of like a proper, "Leave it to Beaver" kind of date.....but fun.

Yes, I've been to a gay bar before. But I am definitely not a bar person or a drinker. I'll go with friends, but I won't go by myself to meet people. I'll never be a bar person and I'll never develop a taste for alcohol. The point I was making was he suggested it and I was comfortable with it. I surprised myself.

I sort of doubt that George is a bar person. I'd be surprised if he is. Seth wasn't a bar person...but he surprised me about some other things.

A Date! A Real Gay Date!

Imagine that! Sunday night I had a real date!

I met this guy.....his name is George. He's 35. Very intelligent, professional guy...Ivy league grad in fact. Not really out. We talked on the phone. Met at his house. Went to dinner....then for tea. Several hours of really good conversation. A hug goodbye outside his front door.

Today I got an email from him telling me how much he enjoyed meeting and getting to know me.

I think he's busy this weekend with a sporting event or something, but I'm anxious to see him again.

He lives about 35 miles from me. He first suggested we go to this gay bar in his city. I said sure, we can go to the bar, but in the end we just went to a regular restaurant. Probably will go to that bar next time. Wow....going to the gay bar with my date....what progression I've made.

Foremore

Yes, Foremore, I do read your comments. Thanks....I do appreciate them!

In fact, sometimes I read them several times as I attempt to understand them.

Sunday Morning

It's Sunday morning. I'm sitting here sipping coffee and catching up on some work. Chat room running in the background. And overrun by married guys....

Maybe this was a quiet period for them....the only chance they have to get online. But four in a row?

It was interesting to hear their stories....people like to tell me about their lives, and these guys were no exception. I'm everyone's psychotherapist.

I was comparing notes with one guy...the father of three boys. Look at the bright side I told him. You've got someone who loves you cuddling up next to you every night, which is something I don't have, I said. "But it's not want I want," he told me. Wow, just heard that from another married friend.

All lamented the difficulty of sneaking around to meet guys and wished it could be easier. I'm glad not to be in that situation anymore.....it's been many years now.

But none of them was thinking about leaving.....

Interesting Video

Man....how true this is